Virtualistic realism

I think it’s been a while since I bugged you people to read my blogs, and I think it’s high time that I write another blog just to drain my brain of all the thoughts and learning’s that stands stagnated in my brain over  these months. Almost four years since I finished my education and entered this so called corporate world, but wouldn’t really say finished my education, because this is where I have started learning more about the real world, the world that appears so colorful and lively from the outside, but to me it is just a dark hollow space filled with virtual people, virtual life and a virtual emotions. This world appears so fast and belligerent that people end up faking everything even their life not knowing how to cope with the fast moving IT world. They are trying to fake the work they do feared they might be kicked by boss if it deviates from routine, they fake the food they eat feared they might be considered unfit in this corporate world, they fake the people with whom they want to spend their leisure time fearing they will be left apart otherwise, they fake the clothes they wear trying to imitate others just so they appear trendy. They try to fake going on foreign tours for vacation, though they have a beautiful pleasant hometown full of life and true people. When faking their lifestyle sounds so pathetic, what is more disheartening is people fake emotions, people fake relationships, and people fake friendships. Just as everything else which they use fancifully, they have started using people and thereby their life is turning out to be a fairy land in dream, where all the angels disappear once they open their eyes. With these random thoughts about people, life and emotions I will get back to you guys with a more interesting blog and for now let me go and discover new ways to fake this life.

As always we will end up learning something from Paulo Coelho on human life:

“Life is eternal, and we have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. And this short interval of meeting is precious. A little parenthesis in eternity. ”

Let our short interval of encounter with humanity be true and real in this eternal world, let us not fake it.!!!! :D

Life's learning

Four months into learning to be a responsible daughter and daughter in law, loving and caring wife, I have certain thoughts pondering in my head which is worth sharing with you all.
When there is not even a perk of rice our stomach expects to have atleast rice with water. When we have that our mind tells ur to have rice with curry, when we have that our mind tells us we should be having atleast two varieties a meal, when we have variety mind pushes us to have a sumptuous grand meal.
This way the very purpose of a state of being is changed by the greediness of mind. When just rice and water can suffice hunger we are pushed to have a grand meal, so we forget the sole purpose which is being hungry and we concentrate on the meal. Where hunger has to be the state of mind and meal is just a tool to handle hunger, but our greedy mind makes meal as the king and hunger is pushed to the back seat. This is not only in food, these days everything is being reversed. In everything we do the state of being is pushed to the back and the tool becomes the purpose. For example men and women tie knots to build a family to nurture love and affection, and everything from food clothing money shelter education knowledge are just tools that will help in enhancing their love for each other, but in today's world love and affection is sent to the back seat and we run behind temporary solace called money and wealth forgetting the permanent and eternal love between people.
We say we are earning money for the family and work day and night without spending time with family, which is funny because when you can't afford "time" and "love" what is the point in affording money. having said so much finally
"Money is only a tool but the sole purpose of a family is love and affection."
Let us use the tool(wealth) and grow the plant (family) and not just keep collecting  the tools while the plant is dying slowly.
With these thoughts running in my mind, and me running to office to earn a perk catch you all next time.

Lifetime refuge

Well, this picture says it all. The smile and happiness that I have since I found refuge in your heart. 60 days of having you by my side is a whole lot to talk about my man. All have wondered why no blog for such a long time and to write about someone this important and special I needed my time. This being the first blog I'm writing as Mrs. Shivaish, I wanted it to be about the man who was born to be my all. Leaving the people who gave you Birth, leaving the little boy who helped you grow alongside him, leaving the comfort zone of house, leaving the cupboards which carried your dresses,leaving the mirror which brought beauty in you all these years, leaving the television and couch which helped you run your time, leaving the kitchen which helped you learn cooking, leaving the scooty that made flying to places easy, leaving the roads that meant to be yours which you travelled day and night, thus goes the list of things that has been left, in these two months. But when I sit back and think I haven't left anything that I had,  infact God has given me all the things that I thought I left in one single bundle called husband. Where there was a father who guided me, I see this man now guiding me for my betterment, where there was a mother with whom I can share my deepest secrets, I see this man now with whom I talk anything and everything that is happening in my life. Where there was a sibling with whom I used to fight and pull pranks I have this man with whom I can still pull pranks and play with. Where I had the mirror which reflected me and helped me groom I have this man who reflects me and make me look cuter every passing day.  Where I had my television and couch which helped me pass time, I have this man who accompanies me in weirdest hours of a day(early morning or midnight) listening to my tynee tiny stories. Where I had my kitchen which developed my culinary skills, I see this man still helping me develop my culinary skills by tasting what little I make. Where I had my scooty which helped me fly places, I have this man's shoulder where I jus have to hold on and close my eyes and I can reach my destination in no time. Where I had my roads which was always waiting for me to travel, I see this man always waiting to be by myside. I wonder how one single man can adopt to be so many avatars of my life. But yes this man always does it with such an ease and with that smile in his face, which makes me grow crazy for him every single minute. Only one thing which I regret is the fact that I got to see my man after 25 years of my life, wish we could have met the day we were born so we would have had more to share in life, but nevertheless we still have lot of memories to make together as shivaish.happppyyyyy two months of togetherness sweeeeetoss.

Nlp: a journey that teaches life

Having very little idea on what nlp is but just knowing that I want a change in career, a career that would give me self satisfaction and at the same time bring about smile and happiness not just in me but the people around me, I entered the class. Being the youngest in the room sitting next to managers and business men hardly did I have hopes of having good learning time inside the class. My brain was playing hide and seek with my heart. Heart wanting to indulge in this new journey and brain wanting to run out and get back to comfort zone. Indeed in a matter of five minutes my heart won, when the moment I involuntary got up and gave feedback after tulsi's speech and my answers were not judged as right or wrong  like in other classsrooms. Instead my answers and feedbacks were welcomed. I knew there was full of positive energy inside the room which had the power to throw away the negativity in us and feel the importance of every little thing around us. "let go" the first expirement we did, I was wondering why would i have to share my drawbacks with people I have hardly known but in end of the session I realised I wasn't sharing my fears with the person sitting in front of me, I was sharing my darkest fears within myself, I spoke to my heart on my darkest fears which I generally avoid doing. The moment I shared my darkest secrets with my heart I cried, I cried felt lighter like as though some magic happened and the fear that I was carrying all these years like burden flew out of my body. From that instance I have started giving a new meaning to my life and most of all started appreciating what I have as a gift. Every exercise I did was so intense and the more I kept talking about what I want out of my life the more closer I was drawn towards my goals. The best of all, I did not have anyone around me who would laugh about my dreams like the outside world did, which helped me talk about my dreams freely like a free bird chirping it's song without the fear of being laughed and ridiculed at.

Modelling

'modelling' other people, putting ourselves in others shoes is something we hardly do, we critisise others on their life, but if we learn to model we will realise that all of us are carrying our own treasure and we will start respecting not only our gift but also what others treasure. Slowly over the course of journey I realised there are no lessons to be learnt for a career change, but there are lessons that have to be learnt to modify the way we live life which in itself will bring change not just in our carrier but in life in its whole.

Every step we take in life is a stepping stone to rebuild ourselves and nlp was not just one stepping stone but a big leap which has helped me enjoy the gifts that God has bestowed on me I have started holding on to these gifts and have become busy collecting the gifts that are on my way and looking forward for the gifts that are yet to come in this journey called life

TRUST…!!!

The worst fear in life for a person is when he feels cheated, when he feels cheated and deprived of what he deserves. There could be times when you will completely trust somethings or somepeople, trust the word in itself brings in so much strength and dependence in the thing you believe to be true, and when this trust is shaken heavily, when this trust is put into dump, when this trust was neglected, when this trust was never realized that is when your brain starts to play hide and seek with your heart.

When brain starts playing with your heart your life will surely go for a toss and in the end if brain wins your heart looses, if heart wins brain looses. Both the cases are for sure going to bring absolute poverty in your life. When brain wins your heart becomes a huge stone-henge with no room for eternity and peace. When you let your heart win the brain becomes a colossal dump of unwanted thoughts which will clear of all the learning’s that you had accumulated in the years of your life.

Having trust is not wrong, in fact as human being the only factor that keeps us going in life is the trust that we have in supreme power above us. But the problem arises when this trust is entrusted on wrong things. Trust is such a powerful weapon that when laid on wrong things it has the ability to bounce back on you and even kill you at times. A person can go to the lowest of his life when his trust on something withers like a leaf that unusually withers in spring.

But nevertheless everything bad also has a good side to it. A  wrong trust is always going to teach you goods lessons. It’s going to make you stronger person from time to time. The journey that this lesson takes you can be a journey into a dark cave with thorns that are going to rip you apart, howbeit you are going to come out of it cleansed and more purer a person.

In the end….as the saying goes,

When winter comes can spring be far behind….

For every wrong trust that puts you into a black hole, there is going to be an eternal trust that is going to take you to the epitome of life and make your journey on this planet glitter as the leaves of spring.

Disturbing factor!!

There is always this one thing that is always a disturbing factor for people. Everybody has a sole purpose in their life for which they strive day and night, and more often this sole purpose of birth becomes the disturbing factor. Even more interesting is for some people the disturbing factor is that they never found out the reason for their birth. The purpose differs from person to person for some their purpose was to just earn a living for their family, for some it was to save some one’s life from their death bed, for some it could be to just enjoy life and spend their parents life earnings lavishly, even more for some it could just be to live. Half of a man’s destiny is attained when he finds out this purpose of birth and when he finds out I think it will no more be a disturbing factor. Another very interesting factor that you will notice in today’s world is when people have their own life and responsibility they often forget that it would be so simpler if they concentrate only on that and not wander about trying to use other’s shoes. Imagine if the sun instead of concentrating on its duty to give us a pleasant day, had in the name of helping the moon concentrated in giving us the night. Neither is the sun going to achieve in bringing a pleasant day nor is it going to know how to bring about a beautiful night. So the sun will not only eventually fail in its duty but also be a hindrance to the moon in achieving its life’s goal. It is not just with the sun or moon, the same thing goes with everything in the universe be it a small crawling ant or the giant mountains, the smallest weeds or a tallest redwood tree, the smartest creation of god men and women, all of us have a purpose for which we are here in this earth. Let’s just concentrate on that and try to achieve it passionately, then the so called disturbing factor will cease to exist.

Machismo!!!!!!!!!!

Well I have always wanted to write about this topic but the girl in me has always suppressed this idea of writing about men, finally I gather all the strength to write about you guys and I start writing when I'm almost half done everything is gone, my laptop shuts down for some reason god knows, and everything I wrote has gone in vain!!! U guys are always a boon and a bane to us girls!!!!! take for example this laptop, I write about you guys and it stops working all of a sudden, and in the end its going to be one of u guys repairing it.!!! this is just a small example of how much a women depends on men in this world to lead a simple life.

Take the other day I happened to go to a shop on my scooty, the shopkeeper almost half my size, and age was such a bug, kept asking me to buy this and that finally I had to rush outside to escape from his pestering, but the same guy minutes later was putting in all the strength he had, to help me start my bike which is also slowly dying day by day.!! Finally without that guy that day I would have ended up rolling my bike all the way back home.!!

It has become a cliché to make blind remarks like “male chauvinism” “male dominance” “men disparaging women” and so on and so forth by women in today’s society. There are always groups who keep bouncing on men saying they belittle women. We are always ready to say beat down men or blame them for their unruly behavior. There are so many women organizations, NGO’s, who keep talking about equality for women day and night. There are people sitting and tweeting on social sites that “men are demons”, “men are cruel hearted”, “all men are dominating”. We come across so many social activists and bloggers even men, who write about women being belittled by men. Sometimes it looks like men themselves try to seek attention of the society by blaming their fellow companions.

But we as women have forgotten that men play perennial roles in our lives. There can be no single passing day without men intervening in our lives. Right from when we were first created in a womb were men helped us give form, till our death when we are carried to our tombstones by men, they have always made our lives livable in this world. They have taken so many different roles like grandfather, father, brother, friend, colleague, lover, husband, uncle, and the relationships go on. If we keenly notice every role a man has taken in his life was always to protect a woman. A father got his name because he had a daughter to take care of, A brother got his name because he has a sister to play with. A husband got his name because he has a wife who is waiting back at his house every day for him to return back from office to show her love and affection. This way I would say woman are born to nurture new life and men are born to shelter and protect them and guide them in this eternal process.

When we understand this then the cycle called human cycle will run as smoothly as it was intended by god!!